Having a healthy sex life can help to create more sparks in relationships. But to have a good sex life, one needs to know how to please his woman, with the right techniques to stimulate her.

Let me just show you some of the secrets in stimulating your woman:

1. Slow down.
It may seem obvious, but the number one way to make sex last longer is to do everything slower. Breathing, feeling, foreplay, kissing and intercourse are all parts of the sex act that do not need to be rushed.

2. Give everything time.
Every moment in sex is worth experiencing fully. Let things unfold in their own time and you will be rewarded with richer experiences during sex and more learning and satisfaction from sex.

3. Deepen your breathing.
Our breath connects us deeply to our body and its rhythms, as well as the rhythm of other bodies near us. Focusing on breathing also helps to quiet the mind and sooth any internal dialogue that may be interfering with our natural enjoyment of the sex.
Here's a hint, try synchronising your deep slow breathing with your partner's.

4. Let go of expectations.
Without expectations around sex, we are free to more naturally savour the experience … however it is! We can be more open to the experience and learn more as a result. Without expectations we free ourselves from disappointment. Here's a trick … see if you can implement these techniques to improve your sex, without caring whether they work!

5. Focus on pleasure in sex rather than the sex act or outcome.
Regardless of certain ideas of sex perpetuated in the world, sex is not about the ending, it is about the whole experience. Getting the girl, having an orgasm, giving an orgasm … these are all important aspects of sex. But the most important element of sex is pleasure! When you start enjoying every moment of sex … it will go on as long as you want!

6. Increase knowledge of your body.
Take the time to understand what brings you pleasure and learn how to pleasure yourself better. Don't forget to share your new knowledge with your partner too. Read up about anatomy. The human body is amazing!

7. Increase knowledge of your partner's body.
Don't be afraid to ask questions and always be open to trying new things in bed. Explore every part of your partner's body like you have never seen or touched it before. Every time you engage in sex it is a perfect opportunity to expand your sexual knowledge. You can learn a lot about the human body by asking friends about their experiences too.

8. Reframe sex as a nurturing healing act.
When we attach shame and guilt to sex it is no wonder that it doesn't flow naturally. Adjust your mindset around sex to reflect only positive aspects. Sex feels so good, how could a gift like this be anything other than healing!

9. Let go of performance anxiety.
Performance anxiety is unnecessary. Be kind to yourself. Learn to forgive yourself if things don't go perfectly, and then learn to stop caring about perfect anyway.

10. Feel your body from within.
Our sensual experience can be deepened dramatically by focusing on our experience from within our body. Get out of your head and let your consciousness move to the centre of your body.

11. Be present.
Don't let the mind wander or engage in pointless internal chatter. Don't let your fantasies and thoughts take you further from the experience at hand. Be in the present experience and the present moment.

So there you have it. Any of these tips individually can start to impact on your sexual performance right now. If you learn them all, you will be a master of your body in and out of the bedroom.

Don't be daunted if it takes a little time though … these are life changing techniques and may take a bit of practice.

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Why the G-Spot Exists
Early in gestation all humans start out as female, but through chemical changes the female organs transform into male organs. There is in fact little difference between the male and female sex organs from an anatomical point of view. It is for this reason that females posses urethral glands and ducts much like males do. These urethral glands in men are called the prostate, and they create much of the male ejaculate. Massaging the prostate through way of the anus is a common practice to sexually stimulate males, and it is no different when it comes to females. Hitting the G-Spot is the equivalent to massaging the prostate of a male, however it can be reached from inside the vagina instead of from within the anus. This process can also cause female ejaculate, which is very similar in chemical composition to male ejaculate (minus the sperm of course). Female Ejaculation is fairly common among G-Spot induced orgasms.

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*warning: lots of vagina's in the video above, if you are under the age of 18 its required by law for you not to watch the video - iv'e said my disclaimer, the choice is yours to take.

Why is it called the Gspot?
Now that all this is said and done you're probly wondering where they got the name 'gspot'. The term 'They' should not be used in this case an individual by the name of Ernst Grafenberg was a in the 50's from Berlin wrote a paper describing a spot on the inside front wall of the vagina, that when stimulated produced intense orgasm and sometimes female ejaculation and thus was named after the man who discovered it- Ernst Grafenberg (the G-Spot).

Locating the G-Spot
The elusive G-Spot lies in the vaginal wall just behind the pelvic bone. If you were to follow the course of the urethra it would be near the front of the bladder. The G-Spot will be a few inches inside the vagina on the front wall. The actual size and location of the G-Spot will vary from person to person.

Stimulating the G-Spot
BEWARNED:During G-spot simulation, it is common for women to feel the need to urinate
Usually fingers are best but there are specially made vibrators that can be used to stimulate the G-Spot. First begin by locating the G-Spot in yourself or with a partner. This process will require feedback from the woman if using a partner since it's deep within the flesh it may be hard to locate. Once located, stimulating the G-Spot requires pressure instead of touch. That is, you must press against it instead of stroking it. For a woman to reach orgasm through G-Spot stimulation use rhythmic upward pressure on the G-Spot with a similar rhythm timing to that of intercourse. Your lady will be suprised if it's her first G-Spot orgasm, as it feels much different (deeper muscle contractions) than a clitoral orgasm. Female ejaculation (PISS NOT SEMEN, FOR THE UNEDUCATED) may occur during orgasm too, but this is natural.

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